Dear Wife

Volume I · No.20

Sunday, July 5, 2026

Dear Wife,

a Sunday record of what happened, what I thought about, and what I noticed. Kept slowly, on purpose, so the picture of a life stays clear when we don't talk every day.

Most recently, July 5, 2026, week 27.

The latest week

July 5, 2026

Week 27

Three people who have never met, one message. Maybe it's like this, maybe it's not. But I've stopped pretending I'm not being told something.

weekly, faith, healing, fatherhood, redemption3 min

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Earlier weeks

Earlier weeks

Week 26

The dread tells me the future is uncertain, and it is right. But sitting next to you asleep, I found the one thing it cannot touch.

weekly, anxiety, marriage, rest3 min

Week 25

My lottery fantasy is so unambitious. No yachts. Just a life where tomorrow is not a threat. Not wealth — the absence of fear.

weekly, providing, fear, offer3 min

Week 24

There is a difference between someone standing behind you and someone standing over you, and from where I am the two have started to blur.

weekly, providing, support, marriage2 min

Week 23

A number that lands in someone else's story says nothing about ours, because the stories were never running on the same clock.

weekly, comparison, ambition, timeline2 min

Week 22

I used to think the work was to make the heaviness go away. I am starting to think the work is just this — to be someone who stays.

weekly, presence, staying, pain3 min

Every Sunday so far →

Thoughts between weeks

Recent thoughts

The Counterweight

The cost is real, you are the counterweight, and the total comes back to zero.

love, gratitude, marriage, wife3 min

The way I know you

I want to write this for you so I can remember you: how good you are as a person, the things I love about you, and why I hope you never stop being who you are.

love, gratitude, identity, ema5 min

Things I noticed

Recent discoveries

What breaks are for

I've always resisted the idea that people need breaks just to escape their lives. But I think I misunderstood something. There is a difference between loving your life and stepping outside of it for a while.

awareness, breaks, clarity, reflection2 min

One Sunday at a time, this becomes a clearer picture.